Not
Good Enough! (Grace Note #59)
Written
by Gary L. Clendenon, July 7-12, 2018
Why
is it that we often struggle with the feeling that we are “Not good
enough”. I would submit to you that are two important reasons: one
very true and one very false. I believe that understanding these
reasons correctly can be life changing!
Being
“Good enough” strongly suggests some kind of standard of
perfection that we ought to be to be living up to. This “Standard
of Perfection” is everywhere in our society and world. From the
moment we are conceived we are swimming in this all-encompassing idea
that we ought to be perfect. It’s as if it’s written in our DNA!
As
we continue through our lives, everything in our world continues to
beat home this message: “You must be perfect.” And,
unfortunately, our value and worth seem to be largely determined by
our ability to measure up to this “Good enough” standard. Where
does this idea come from?
One
of the things I love about the Christian perspective is that there is
a logical answer to this question. This constant feeling about our
lack of goodness is an ever-present reminder and an echo of a perfect
past, a perfect beginning. “In the beginning, GOD created the
heavens and the earth…. And, on the sixth day, God looked over
everything
he had made; it was good,
so very good!”
In terms of goodness, the very language for what we now feel comes
from the very beginning.
So,
what we feel now
suggests a gap, a chasm, a huge change between now and back then. We
all know the story: Our First Parents took the choice given to them
by Almighty GOD to give life a go on their own. Because they were
created to function ideally in Union with GOD, this choice introduced
a horrible glitch into their lives, a glitch that led to brokenness,
struggle, decay, and eventual death. This glitch was written into
their DNA, and we, their progeny, naturally inherit this glitch.
This is a Truth that, on our own, we cannot change.
The
first reason that we struggle with feeling “Not good enough” is
because, through no fault of our own, we ARE
“Not good enough”.
In
my description of “The First Reason”, I proposed that the reason
we feel “Not good enough” is a DNA-embedded gift from our First
Parents, Adam and Eve. It is a natural by-product of being born
human. Some call it “The Human Condition”. It painfully and
truthfully represents our deviation from a complete union with
Almighty GOD and His perfect plan for humanity, and we deeply long
for that
“Good”.
Now,
some will point out that our First Parents were deceived, and that
is, of course, correct. And, to further that point, I will add that
it would be quite foolish for us to ignore this fact and not learn
everything we can from their mistakes. We would be wise to look at
what we can learn from this key story of Adam and Eve being deceived.
The
first and most obvious lesson would appear to be that our First
Parents had an Enemy. The second lesson we can learn from their
story is that their Enemy’s tool of choice was deception. The
beautiful talking Serpent told Eve two complete lies which led her to
make the choice to eat the fruit and change the nature of her
relationship with GOD. Adam followed Eve into this deception and
also ate the fruit.
Now,
if we apply these lessons to our lives, we can deduce that we most
likely face the same Enemy that Adam and Eve faced and that the
Enemy’s primary mode of deception has not changed. A survey of the
Bible quickly and strongly confirms these facts: We do
also have an Enemy, and our Enemy’s main approach is
deception through lies. See John 8:44 (Footnote 1)
The
second reason that we struggle with feeling “Not good enough” is
that we believe the lies that being “Not good enough” is our
fault and that this matters to GOD.
This
is HUGE!! Sadly, many, many believers in GOD are still—after
thousands of years—falling for the Enemy’s lies. Two lies were
told to Eve. Two lies continue to suck humans today down into the
pit of shame and despair. This may come as a surprise to some of
you, but it is not GOD’s desire, intention, or plan that we live in
shame and despair!
The
first lie we fall for is that “not
being good enough is our fault.”
And, if one follows that logic, that means that if
it is our fault, then there is something we
can and must
do about it. Therefore, it’s our
responsibility to be better, to fix this flaw, to try harder, to
overcome.
Our
whole society—including many Churches—is built to reinforce this
lie. Everything
around us shouts subtly—to sometimes not even subtly—“You’re
not good enough.”
And then, of course, conveniently, society supposedly has the answer
for our problem: “Just DO THIS. Or THIS. Or TRY THAT!” Sadly,
an even darker side of this deception is our society is hard-wired to
gladly take our hard-earned money to continue to perpetuate this evil
lie!
The
challenge with this deception, as with all deceptions, is that there
is just enough Truth mixed in to make it believable. That is why it
was so important for me to share “The First Reason” we feel “Not
good enough”: “Because we aren’t!” Ironically, it is this
Truth that is twisted and sadistically sets us up for the deception
that we
can and must
change our level of goodness to be good enough.
This
lie is complete and utter bull-crap, and I am calling it out right
now! I am taking this lie down in the most forceful way I know
how—with the Truth! The Bible says that knowing the truth “will
set you free” (2) and Christian, we need to be free of this demonic
deception. Rebuke it. Renounce it. Speak the Truth to it. What is
that Truth?
As
shown in “The
First Reason”,
the GOD-awesome Truth is that our “not being good enough” is NOT
our fault, and outside of living in relationship with GOD, there is
nothing we can do to be good enough! It is not our responsibility to
fix our brokenness; it is GOD’s, and He will do it!
The
second lie is related to and naturally builds upon the first: “Our
‘Not being good enough’ matters to GOD.” Sadly
the message we often get from the Church is that our being
or NOT
being
“good enough” REALLY
matters to GOD.
Unfortunately,
this falsehood leads many to Pharisaic Legalism and a completely
distorted focus on Perfection: We must try harder, pray harder, work
harder to make it into GOD’s kingdom: “Watch
out Christian Soldier! Any moment or tiny slip-up could lead to your
eternal damnation!” This
perspective is even perpetuated in our jokes. I think the most
common “Christian” joke takes place at the Gate of Heaven where
the sinner meets Saint Peter and finds out if he earned enough tokens
to get into Heaven!
Sadly,
believing that “being
good enough matters to GOD”
has led many a discouraged human, having tried their hardest to be
good enough, to realize the reality of “The
First Reason” (It
is impossible to become good enough),
and then say, quite logically, “If
I cannot be good enough, what is the point in even trying??”
It
is no wonder that so many at this point just completely give up
having any religious practice at all. They may still believe in GOD,
but, sadly, have accepted their “eternally damned fate” because
they have fallen for this devious,
twisted
untruth! Others “Soldier on” in grim martyrdom until their
death, all the while still believing the lie.
I
feel so sad and even a little bit righteously angry to see so many
people stubbornly struggle with this deviously evil untruth! I know
that I bought into this lie for many of my 58 years and am just now
beginning to see the Truth that overcomes this lie! I am
so
excited to share this life-changing Truth with you and hope that it
brings you the Peace and Serenity that it has brought me. I have
been working on these words for days, and I am so
impatient to share them with you!
The
Truth to combat this lie is: GOD Loves you and meets you and accepts
you wherever
you are. Whatever level of goodness you have does not matter to GOD
because it is NOT your goodness that gets you into Heaven! Yes,
perfection is
required, but not
yours!
It is the goodness and perfection of Jesus of Nazareth that clothes
you and washes away whatever imperfections and not-goodness you may
have. When GOD, Your Loving Father, looks at you, all He sees is His
beautiful child.
“But
I keep sinning,” you say! Yes, you do, and just like any loving
Father, when you mess your pants, Your Heavenly Father, without a
word of shame or condemnation, removes the mess, cleans you up, puts
some fresh clothes on you, and then gives you a kiss and says, “Now,
go run and play.”
Friend,
this
is
the True Gospel. This
Truth is the thing that when you get a hold of will, as I stated in
my first paragraph, forever change your life! To the extent that we
accept and believe this Truth, to that extent will we be at Peace and
in Serenity with our growing relationship with GOD. There is no
shame even in our lack of ability to believe this. GOD meets us
always
right where we are at. We can always join the man from the Bible who
cried out to Jesus, “I believe. Help my unbelief.”(3) And, He
will—always.
FOOTNOTES:
(1)
“You
are the children of your father, the Devil, and you want to follow
your father's desires. ...there is no truth in him. When he tells a
lie, he is only doing what is natural to him, because he is a liar
and the father of all lies.”
John
8:44
(2)
John 8:32
(3)
Mark 9:24