Your Problems!

"Your Problems!"

By Gary L. Clendenon  (c) 11-1-11 (Updated 3-29-24)

You cannot successfully run from your problems. You cannot successfully "get away" from your problems. You cannot successfully escape from your problems. You cannot successfully be rescued from your problems. You cannot successfully solve your problems by changing or exchanging relationships. You cannot successfully "Positive Think" your problems away. You cannot successfully move somewhere else and leave your problems behind. You cannot. You can try any or all of these things, but they will not completely work. Why? Because . . .

"WHEREVER YOU GO, THERE YOU ARE."

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM.  So, wherever you run, escape, flee, or move to, your problems will follow. You may trick yourself into thinking that you have left them behind, but it won't be long 'til they slowly work their way through your mental mazes and pop back out.

Even if you move to another continent, change your job, change your partner, change your look, start all over--a whole "new" life, it will not solve your problems. It cannot solve your problems, for they are a part of you. They are inside of you, and wherever you go, there they are!

Albert Einstein, indisputably one of the most intelligent men in modern history said, "You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it." If you want to solve your problems, you must understand how they were created. You must understand the mind that created your problems.

Your problems are not what they appear to be. The odd behaviors that you do, the strange actions that you take, the inexplicable decisions that you make, these are all just clues that there is someone behind the curtain running your life, and most of the time you are unaware of this person!

I will now reveal to you who this person is! The person behind the curtain is . . . [drum roll] . . . The Subconscious You. Since "subconscious" means "below the level of our awareness", that means that "The Unaware You" is running your life! 95% of our of everything that we do is done without our being aware of it. Only 5% of what we do, we are conscious and aware of!

Since this is true, it means that the source of most of your problems is beliefs that you are not aware of in your subconsciousness. Most all of these beliefs were directly hard-wired into your brain during the first six years of your life--without being filtered in any way! (Note to my SDA friends: "Insert corroborating E.G. White quote here.") (1)

Some of your subconscious beliefs are simply outdated--they served you well at a young age, but are no longer applicable to your life now. Some of your subconscious beliefs are related to events in your young life that you experienced as traumatic or stressful. In either case, when you experience something similar now, your mind automatically goes back to that young age, checks the belief you made at that time, and then responds as that child.

"As that child." I know! I know! Finding out that the one actually behind the curtain running your life is a small child is a little disconcerting! But, think about it for a minute. Doesn't it makes sense in a twisted sort of way? Wouldn't that explain a lot of the inexplicable things you have done that didn't make any sense from an adult perspective? Don't you sometimes feel that your responses to certain situations looking back seem kinda childish? Has anyone ever told you that you were acting or responding in a childish way--maybe told you that you need to "grow up"? Have you ever felt like a child trapped in an adult body? I see you nodding your head slowly in agreement that this idea does make sense after all.

Great! So, now what? Well, the answer is simple and yet challenging. If the source of your problems is outdated or incorrect beliefs and you want to "grow up" and live life as an adult, you will somehow need to become aware of your subconscious beliefs, decide if they are still valid or not, then either keep them or replace them with better beliefs. At first glance, this is easier said, than done; however, new ways of accomplishing this are being added to this field of Brain Psychology as they are discovered. Although there are probably more, I am aware of at least 10 specific tools or techniques that can be used to accomplish this.

1. Hypnosis: I am aware that hypnosis does help with subconscious beliefs, however, I cannot personally recommend it due to my own personal beliefs about the danger of allowing someone else to have control of your mind.

2. EFT "Emotional Freedom Techniques" (http://www.eftuniverse.com/): I am aware of this because a friend of mine has tried it and says that it works.

3. Psych-K (http://psych-k.com/): I have personally experienced "Psych-K". I found it to be very beneficial due to the fact that you can find out what specific beliefs you have that are incongruent with who you are and want to be. For example, the stunner for me was that I found out that I had a subconscious belief that there was not a Divine Force running the Universe. I am a very strong believer in GOD and have been all my life! Yet, underneath it all I had this belief that was sabotaging and and undermining my desired belief. Psyche-K replaces your undesired subconscious beliefs with desired beliefs. The downside of Psyche-K for me is that it is very expensive.

4. EMDR "Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing" (http://www.emdr.com/): I have personally experienced EMDR and found it to be very beneficial because it works on getting to your subconscious beliefs--especially the traumatic ones--and healing them. This is a powerful tool and I highly recommend it. The neat thing is that you do not even have to know what specifically you are working on and so you can heal traumatic memories that you are not even aware of or remember, per se. EMDR is “strongly recommended” for the treatment of trauma by Department of Veterans Affairs and Department of Defense for returning veterans struggling with PTSD. Although not as expensive as Psyche-K, it is still not inexpensive (think normal price for going to see a counselor). Because of it's efficiency, EMDR is covered by some insurances for PTSD.

5. The Healing Code(s): The Healing Code(s) was discovered in 2001 by Dr. Alexander Lloyd. In his book, The Healing Code, he shares with you the science and story behind the code (much of what I have written here has been inspired by this book), and how to do a generic "healing code" to receive healing. The only cost is the book itself! However, if you wish to purchase detailed "codes" for specific problems and get quicker, more efficient help, there are a couple of different plans that you can pay to sign up for ($199). I just recently discovered "The Healing Code" concept, have read the book, and am currently doing the code on myself daily and seem to be noticing some benefit. For a more detailed report on my journey, go here : facebook: or My Blog:

6. Belief in a Higher Power: As a Christian, I would be remiss if I did not mention my belief that GOD, my higher power, can heal anyone or anything. I believe that a spiritual practice which includes faith, Biblical studies, prayer, and fellowship with other believers can be of extreme benefit to the healing journey. I believe that GOD can and sometimes does directly heal our minds and other times leads us to other tools--such as some of the ones I listed above--that will help us on our healing journey. If we allow, GOD will direct our paths to lead us to the path that best fits our unique healing.

7. Positively "Renewing Our Minds" is a Facebook page that I created for further discussions on this topic that you can LIKE and/or FOLLOW.

8. Groups: There is healing power in being involved in focused groupwork whether it's 12-step, Christian, or Other groups.  Join. Participate. And you will grow.

9. Self-improvement Seminars: There are many of these, but two that I will strongly recommend are Foundations for Tomorrow (For me, personally, best seminar EVER!!) and Dr. Matt James NLP seminars.

10. Affirmations: Repeated use of Positive Affirmations will change your thinking and beliefs over time.  Louise Hay was called "The Queen of Affirmations".  Here is her website and you she has many books out that you can look into.

All the best to you in your healing journey. I pray that whatever Higher Power you serve, that your journey will be guided into what will be the best for you.

Gary L. Clendenon

1. The Healing Code, Alex Loyd, Phd., p. 122

A Personal Health Update!

Hello Friends, It has been a while since I have given y'all a personal update. As most of you know, for many years I have struggled with Chronic Fatigue, due to a number of known and unknown problems with my body that are probably all interrelated. Known: Hereditary Hypothyroidism, Allergies, some aftereffects from nasty viruses I picked up as a Missionary in Asia, Traumatic Brain Injury due to numerous sports-related Concussions--the last one received in a car accident in 2005, Physical and Emotional Depression, a case of Systemic Candida, and Digestive Problems--at least partially due to a recent discovery of 2 parasites: Roundworms and Cryptosporidium. Turns out I've been eating for 3! (I am in the 2nd month of treatment for the parasites, which has been quite a challenge to my already fragile system.)

Recently, I was looking around on Amazon.com and stumbled across a book entitled: The Healing Code: 6 Minutes to Heal the Source of Your Health, Success, or Relationship Issue

Having read The Bible Code and The Da Vinci Code and always being interested in getting help for my health--especially if it only took 6 minutes, I ordered a copy. I was a bit skeptical, but figured it was worth a try!

What I read seemed a bit hokey and way too easy, but after reading all the testimonials and the science and testing behind this theory, it seemed plausible. In a very simple nutshell, what really did resonate with me--and that is the focus of this update--was their belief that all illness and disease is caused by stress! So, their solution, obviously, involves getting rid of that stress. So, naturally, the question arises: "Where specifically does the stress come from?"

Turns out the authors are believers in Jesus Christ, although that is not the focus of the book and they do not push their beliefs, they do mention the Bible text in Proverbs 4:23 that says "Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." So, they came up with a unique test to find out what are the issues of YOUR heart so that you can focus "The Healing Code" on those issues.

The Heart Issues Finder test is an online test (click for link) with a printable 12 page Report and the Authors claim that it is the only test in the world available that measures the issues of your heart. So, I took it and discovered that my number one "Issue" is actually related specifically to my heart (each issue relates to a corresponding physical system in our bodies). My number one "Issue" is a lack of belief in myself. In other words, I look to others for my worth and value instead of looking to GOD and then having the strength to believe in myself--in spite of what others may think of me or my beliefs.

As I have thought about these results, I do believe that they are right on the money. And, just now, I realized the connection with this issue and "stress"--the cause of illness and disease--is that the stress comes from me worrying about whether I am OK or not in someone else's eyes. I have noticed (especially on facebook) that if someone else disagrees with me, I experience rejection! Although intellectually I know that "Experience does not equal Rejection" (a Foundations saying), my emotional experience does not equal my intellectual belief.

As The Healing Code teaches, many of our subconscious beliefs cause us stress because they do not match up with our conscious beliefs, and because they are subconscious, we are not aware of why we are experiencing the stress. We are unaware of why we are having the emotional response we are having. This is the glory of The Heart Issues Finder because now we can become aware of what is going on in our deep dark heart of hearts! And then, with "The Healing Code" (as described in the book by the same name), we can fix these unseen heart issues.

As I examine sources of stress in my life, I am realizing that I will need to make some changes. These are not easy changes for me to make because these things have been a part of my daily life for years. I am going to need to pull way back from any discussion of politics. I have discovered that this causes me stress. I am going to need to avoid talk radio, for it too causes me stress. There are some TV shows that I may need to avoid due to their stressful content.

The number one question on my heart today has been: "What do I replace all these stressful things with?" So far, the only answer I have come up with is soothing or uplifting music. Any wisdom in that direction from you would be appreciated!

I want to encourage you if you are intrigued by what I have shared, to consider taking The Heart Issues Finder (see link above) and purchasing The Healing Code book to learn how to do the actual code--It is really easy and can truly be done in 6 minutes!

May your Higher Power's Love surround You now and Bless You today and Forever. This is my Prayer.

Your Friend, Gary