"Your Problems!"
By Gary L. Clendenon (c) 11-1-11 (Updated 3-29-24)
"WHEREVER YOU GO, THERE YOU ARE."
YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. So, wherever you run, escape, flee, or move to, your problems will follow. You may trick yourself into thinking that you have left them behind, but it won't be long 'til they slowly work their way through your mental mazes and pop back out.
Even if you move to another continent, change your job, change your partner, change your look, start all over--a whole "new" life, it will not solve your problems. It cannot solve your problems, for they are a part of you. They are inside of you, and wherever you go, there they are!
Albert Einstein, indisputably one of the most intelligent men in modern history said, "You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it." If you want to solve your problems, you must understand how they were created. You must understand the mind that created your problems.
Your problems are not what they appear to be. The odd behaviors that you do, the strange actions that you take, the inexplicable decisions that you make, these are all just clues that there is someone behind the curtain running your life, and most of the time you are unaware of this person!
I will now reveal to you who this person is! The person behind the curtain is . . . [drum roll] . . . The Subconscious You. Since "subconscious" means "below the level of our awareness", that means that "The Unaware You" is running your life! 95% of our of everything that we do is done without our being aware of it. Only 5% of what we do, we are conscious and aware of!
Since this is true, it means that the source of most of your problems is beliefs that you are not aware of in your subconsciousness. Most all of these beliefs were directly hard-wired into your brain during the first six years of your life--without being filtered in any way! (Note to my SDA friends: "Insert corroborating E.G. White quote here.") (1)
Some of your subconscious beliefs are simply outdated--they served you well at a young age, but are no longer applicable to your life now. Some of your subconscious beliefs are related to events in your young life that you experienced as traumatic or stressful. In either case, when you experience something similar now, your mind automatically goes back to that young age, checks the belief you made at that time, and then responds as that child.
"As that child." I know! I know! Finding out that the one actually behind the curtain running your life is a small child is a little disconcerting! But, think about it for a minute. Doesn't it makes sense in a twisted sort of way? Wouldn't that explain a lot of the inexplicable things you have done that didn't make any sense from an adult perspective? Don't you sometimes feel that your responses to certain situations looking back seem kinda childish? Has anyone ever told you that you were acting or responding in a childish way--maybe told you that you need to "grow up"? Have you ever felt like a child trapped in an adult body? I see you nodding your head slowly in agreement that this idea does make sense after all.
Great! So, now what? Well, the answer is simple and yet challenging. If the source of your problems is outdated or incorrect beliefs and you want to "grow up" and live life as an adult, you will somehow need to become aware of your subconscious beliefs, decide if they are still valid or not, then either keep them or replace them with better beliefs. At first glance, this is easier said, than done; however, new ways of accomplishing this are being added to this field of Brain Psychology as they are discovered. Although there are probably more, I am aware of at least 10 specific tools or techniques that can be used to accomplish this.
1. Hypnosis: I am aware that hypnosis does help with subconscious beliefs, however, I cannot personally recommend it due to my own personal beliefs about the danger of allowing someone else to have control of your mind.
2. EFT "Emotional Freedom Techniques" (http://www.eftuniverse.com/): I am aware of this because a friend of mine has tried it and says that it works.
3. Psych-K (http://psych-k.com/): I have personally experienced "Psych-K". I found it to be very beneficial due to the fact that you can find out what specific beliefs you have that are incongruent with who you are and want to be. For example, the stunner for me was that I found out that I had a subconscious belief that there was not a Divine Force running the Universe. I am a very strong believer in GOD and have been all my life! Yet, underneath it all I had this belief that was sabotaging and and undermining my desired belief. Psyche-K replaces your undesired subconscious beliefs with desired beliefs. The downside of Psyche-K for me is that it is very expensive.
4. EMDR "Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing" (http://www.emdr.com/): I have personally experienced EMDR and found it to be very beneficial because it works on getting to your subconscious beliefs--especially the traumatic ones--and healing them. This is a powerful tool and I highly recommend it. The neat thing is that you do not even have to know what specifically you are working on and so you can heal traumatic memories that you are not even aware of or remember, per se. EMDR is “strongly recommended” for the treatment of trauma by Department of Veterans Affairs and Department of Defense for returning veterans struggling with PTSD. Although not as expensive as Psyche-K, it is still not inexpensive (think normal price for going to see a counselor). Because of it's efficiency, EMDR is covered by some insurances for PTSD.
5. The Healing Code(s): The Healing Code(s) was discovered in 2001 by Dr. Alexander Lloyd. In his book, The Healing Code, he shares with you the science and story behind the code (much of what I have written here has been inspired by this book), and how to do a generic "healing code" to receive healing. The only cost is the book itself! However, if you wish to purchase detailed "codes" for specific problems and get quicker, more efficient help, there are a couple of different plans that you can pay to sign up for ($199). I just recently discovered "The Healing Code" concept, have read the book, and am currently doing the code on myself daily and seem to be noticing some benefit. For a more detailed report on my journey, go here : facebook: or My Blog:
6. Belief in a Higher Power: As a Christian, I would be remiss if I did not mention my belief that GOD, my higher power, can heal anyone or anything. I believe that a spiritual practice which includes faith, Biblical studies, prayer, and fellowship with other believers can be of extreme benefit to the healing journey. I believe that GOD can and sometimes does directly heal our minds and other times leads us to other tools--such as some of the ones I listed above--that will help us on our healing journey. If we allow, GOD will direct our paths to lead us to the path that best fits our unique healing.
7. Positively "Renewing Our Minds" is a Facebook page that I created for further discussions on this topic that you can LIKE and/or FOLLOW.
8. Groups: There is healing power in being involved in focused groupwork whether it's 12-step, Christian, or Other groups. Join. Participate. And you will grow.
9. Self-improvement Seminars: There are many of these, but two that I will strongly recommend are Foundations for Tomorrow (For me, personally, best seminar EVER!!) and Dr. Matt James NLP seminars.
10. Affirmations: Repeated use of Positive Affirmations will change your thinking and beliefs over time. Louise Hay was called "The Queen of Affirmations". Here is her website and you she has many books out that you can look into.
All the best to you in your healing journey. I pray that whatever Higher Power you serve, that your journey will be guided into what will be the best for you.
Gary L. Clendenon
1. The Healing Code, Alex Loyd, Phd., p. 122
Gary L. Clendenon
1. The Healing Code, Alex Loyd, Phd., p. 122
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